Let’s Talk About Shame
CG Jung said “Shame is a soul eating emotion.” And I know a lot of people, especially trans people, in many situations feel intense shame. So lets talk about it!
General
A Rose by Another Name
When I was in my early twenties, I complained to my mother about my first name. I had NO idea I was trans, that would take me another thirty years. My mother looked at me and said: “I know, you told me when you were a child, maybe six or seven.” I asked: “What did you say?” “I asked you, how you would like to be called instead,” she said. And I didn’t have an answer.
Quick Decisions – Slow Decisions
Let me start again with sort of a disclaimer: I’m not bragging here. I’m not proposing that anyone but me should take the approach I took. This process was and is very much a “me thing”. Every way or approach you choose to take is valid!
Echoes of the Past
This is not an easy to write post. Because it’s important to me, but can be very easily misunderstood. It’s about feelings of body horror and discovering things from my adolescence.
Are the Cis Ok?
As we transition, we sometimes have conversations with cis people. Some of them funny, some rather awkward. Since I had some of them that were really entertaining or funny I thought I write a bit about these short episodes. Note that there might be situations readers would not feel comfortable with reading about.
Sashas Outfits #2
G’day to another edition of “does she really have a sound explanation for what she’s wearing?!?” Yes, I call it #SashasOutfits.
Sashas Outfits #1
Ok, here we go with a first test for #SashasOutfits. Main topic here is contrasting juxtaposition.
Sashas Outfits Intro
I had an idea, that I posted on Mastodon: Idea! What if I, instead of just taking outfit pictures, I explain how I put it together? Because every outfit I wear is constructed in one way or the other. I use certain rules to express myself in it.
A different type of a bucket list
This will be a different type of bucket list. It’s not “things I would like to do in my life”, but a list of things I need to do for different reasons. So it’s more a list to hold myself accountable. And procrastinating these things will be embarrassing. And there are few things that hurt me more than to be embarrassed.
How They Became Her
Here is a story I often tell about how I changed my pronouns, so I thought it’s of interest for a wider audience. Also I don’t have to tell it anew so often, I can just point to this blog entry 😅.